He Cares Monday: How Men Can Support Doctor Visits
Doctor’s visits can be a stressful part of the menopause journey, especially when symptoms like hot flashes, mood swings, or sleep disturbances are being discussed. Having a supportive partner accompany them to these appointments can provide emotional reassurance and practical assistance.
Why Attending Doctor’s Visits Together Matters
Menopause brings a variety of physical and emotional changes, many of which can be difficult to manage alone. Sometimes, having someone to ask the right questions, take notes, or simply be there for comfort can help reduce anxiety and ensure that the individual gets the most out of their healthcare experience.
However, it’s important to recognize that many individuals experiencing menopause are often met with dismissive attitudes when discussing their symptoms with healthcare professionals. In fact:
A survey found that 45% of individuals felt their menopause symptoms were not taken seriously by their doctor.
30% of individuals reported being told their symptoms were “just part of getting older” without receiving any advice or support on how to manage them.
Nearly 25% of individuals shared that they had to see multiple doctors before finding one who would take their concerns seriously.
These statistics highlight the importance of having a supportive partner in healthcare settings. Being there to advocate for your loved one can help ensure they receive the care and attention they deserve.
3 Ways You Can Offer Support During Doctor’s Visits
Prepare Together Before the appointment, sit down together and make a list of symptoms or concerns they’d like to discuss with the doctor. This shows that you’re actively engaged in their well-being. Offer to help them organize their thoughts, especially if they feel overwhelmed by the range of symptoms they’re experiencing.
Here are three supportive questions you can ask your partner to help prepare for and navigate doctor visits:
"Is there anything specific you want to ask the doctor today that I can help you remember?" This question shows that you’re willing to support them by helping to prioritize their concerns and ensuring nothing gets overlooked during the appointment.
"How would you like me to support you during the visit? Should I ask questions, take notes, or just be there for you?" By asking this, you give your partner control over how they want you to participate, ensuring you provide the kind of support they feel comfortable with.
"Do you feel like the doctor addressed all your concerns? Is there anything else we should ask before we leave?" This shows your commitment to making sure your partner leaves the appointment feeling fully heard and informed, while also helping to prevent any lingering questions from going unasked.
Advocate When Needed Doctor’s visits can sometimes feel rushed, or your partner may feel dismissed or misunderstood. Be ready to step in with gentle reminders of important questions or concerns that might have been overlooked. If your partner struggles to communicate certain symptoms, offer to help articulate those issues, but always ensure you’re speaking with their consent and approval.
Offer Emotional Reassurance Your presence alone can be comforting, but don’t underestimate the power of post-visit support. After the appointment, discuss the information with them, and help them process what the doctor said. Offering to help implement any treatment plans or lifestyle changes recommended by the doctor can make your partner feel more supported and less alone in managing their symptoms.
Doctor visits during menopause can be daunting, but as a partner, you play a vital role in providing comfort, organization, and emotional support. By preparing for these appointments together, advocating when necessary, and offering reassurance, you help ensure that they receive the best possible care, especially in a system where menopause symptoms are sometimes overlooked or dismissed.
