He Cares Monday: Menopause Support from Partners
Menopause is a significant life transition that many individuals experience, but it’s often one where their partners feel unsure of how to offer support. As someone navigating this phase, you may notice changes that seem confusing or even overwhelming. But here’s the thing—your support, patience, and understanding can make an enormous difference.
What Is Menopause, and Why Does It Matter?
Menopause occurs when a person’s menstrual cycle ends, typically in their late 40s or early 50s. It brings about hormonal changes, leading to various symptoms like hot flashes, mood swings, weight gain, sleep disturbances, and more. While these symptoms can be challenging, having a supportive partner can ease this transition significantly.
Why Partner Support During Menopause Matters
Menopause brings both physical and emotional challenges. Research has shown that support from a partner can greatly impact the overall well-being of someone going through menopause. However, many individuals feel unsupported during this time.
Nearly 60% of individuals feel that their partners do not fully understand what they are going through during menopause.
A study found that 70% of individuals going through menopause reported that their partner’s support significantly reduced their stress levels.
Only 35% of individuals discuss their menopause symptoms openly with their partner, despite feeling that emotional and practical support would help.
These statistics underscore the importance of partner involvement during menopause. By showing up, listening, and offering practical help, you can make this life transition smoother for your loved one.
3 Ways to Show Support During Menopause
Be Empathetic and Patient Menopause can be an emotional rollercoaster, and some days will be better than others. Listening with empathy and practicing patience during moments of frustration or discomfort allows your partner to feel understood rather than isolated. Avoid minimizing their feelings or assuming it’s just a “phase.”
Encourage Open Conversations Talking openly about menopause can help you both feel more connected. Ask questions about how your partner is feeling, and what you can do to help, and listen without judgment. Remember, it’s not just about the physical symptoms—emotional changes also come into play. This communication fosters a sense of teamwork during what can feel like a very personal battle.
Here are three supportive questions you can ask your partner:
"Is there anything specific you need from me right now?" This question opens the door for your partner to express their needs, whether it’s physical comfort, space, or emotional support.
"How are you feeling today, and how can I make things easier for you?" Asking about their day-to-day feelings shows that you’re attuned to the changes they’re going through and that you want to ease their experience.
"Are there any ways I can help make your health and self-care routine more manageable?" Offering to assist with self-care routines—whether it’s meal prepping, attending doctor’s visits, or creating a calming environment—demonstrates your commitment to their well-being.
Offer Practical Support Whether it’s adjusting the room temperature to help with hot flashes or giving them space when they need time alone, practical gestures show your care. Offering to attend doctor’s appointments, help with meal planning for energy support, or even just being available for a comforting hug goes a long way. These actions help your partner feel that you are fully invested in their health and well-being.
Why It Matters
Menopause is a vulnerable time for many, and knowing they have a caring partner by their side makes a world of difference. Your support helps your loved one not only manage their symptoms better but also feel emotionally secure during this transition. It's not about having all the answers—it's about being present and engaged in the journey together.
